Oct 21, 2020
In this week's episode, we discuss the major red flags to identify in relationships. Listen as we talk about online dating, communication styles, and identifying insecurities in a partner. Dive in as we discuss ghosting, gaslighting, and the power of intuition. It’s ok to do a needs assessment and a mental health status exam. That is our superpower as therapists and healers.
Key takeaways for this week’s episode:
1. You ain’t that busy. Consistent communication is one of the most important factors in having a healthy relationship. Let someone know that you are busy and that you will get back to them. That demonstrates respect for the other person and intentionality in a relationship.
2. Watch what they say and then watch what they do. Behavior is a key indicator of how someone feels about you. Ghosting can happen to you very suddenly or after months of dating someone. People avoid hard conversations because that is easier for them. If you have been ghosted move on. Stop looking for closure because you probably will never know why you were ghosted.
3. Please, please, PLEASE watch out for gaslighting and narcissism. These are signs of emotional abuse and manipulation. It is usually subtle. Let’s stop trying to make excuses for other people’s behaviors. Let’s stop trying to turn them into people they are not. Move on. RUN.
4. Ask yourself: Am I l continuing to come across the same types of people? Who am I allowing into my world and why? Be aware of the other person’s patterns but also look at your own patterns. You have to take responsibility for your actions too. You can have grace for people that are trying hard to change.
5. Good luck. May the force be with you. Love always wins but...love yourself first then try to date.
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Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it
real.
-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)