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Aug 11, 2020

In this week's episode, we review the trending Netflix reality show called Indian Matchmaker.

Listen as we talk about the concept and process of arranged marriages, why dating is like in the year 2020, and what it means, looks and feels like to date with intention. Dive in as we discuss colorism, the ranking system in South Asian countries, and the implications of dating a “hot” or a “boring” person. Hurry up and write that relationship book, Tonika!

Key takeaways from this episode include:

1. We are all one step away from having a “When Harry a Met Sally” love story. Well, unless you have an arranged marriage. Relationships, whether arranged or not, often start off being focused on physical attraction and what each person brings to the table. They have the potential to grow into long term love based unions when both people are invested in one another.

2. You must first be ready for marriage if you want and plan to get married. If you are not committed to partnership and marriage internally then you are not being your authentic self. Be honest with yourself about what you actually need and want. Do not waste someone else’s time.

3. To be clear: The use of the word “boring” is a friendly euphemism for “ready” (for a relationship). Chemistry makes a difference whether it’s for love or arrangement only. You must have a great personality and be genuinely interested in joining with another person. Discover which partner you want in your life and lean in.

4. Do not forget that this is a reality show and of course there were creative licenses taken to entice and to engage the audience. Indian Matchmaker is very entertaining and it is also thought-provoking about dating and long term relationships. We cannot wait for season 2!

For questions and share outs and further discussion please contact us at therapistsarepeopletoo@gmail.com.

Until next time, remember to live, laugh, love, and keep it real.

-Frantzces, Sabeen and Tonika :)

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